One grounded internal skill you can practice this week.
Something didn’t go the way you wanted.
Maybe you were rejected.
A plan fell apart.
Someone disappointed you.
You made a mistake.
On Sunday, we talked about giving yourself permission to acknowledge the obvious before searching for a silver lining: “I didn’t want this.”
However, there may come a point when you’re ready to look at the situation again.
→ That’s where this week’s skill comes in.
Reframing adversity means looking at a difficult situation from another angle so you can see more than what went wrong.
You’re not trying to convince yourself that the problem isn’t a problem.
You’re asking: What else can I see from here?
Why This Skill Matters
Adversity narrows our attention.
One thing goes wrong and suddenly it can feel like everything is wrong.
The rejection becomes I’m never going to get the opportunity.
The mistake becomes I always screw things up.
The difficult week becomes My whole life is a mess.
Reframing widens the picture.
→ The problem is still there, but so are things you may not have been able to see while all your attention was focused on what went wrong.
You’re not trying to convince yourself that the problem isn’t a problem. You’re trying to see more than the problem.
What This Skill Is
When you’re dealing with a setback, ask yourself these four questions:
