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Jess, The Creator's avatar

Connection is not built by avoiding difficulty.

It’s built by learning how to return after it.

If this resonated, I’d love to hear what stood out.

Duncan The Sage's avatar

Great post, thank you for sharing your ideas and thoughts. I enjoy listening to your podcast episode. It got thinking how to get better with my relationship with people.

Nnamdi's avatar

pride is a major culprit here

Eladio Matos's avatar

Such a powerful piece, Jessica.

Relationships, whether romantic or otherwise, take a whole lot of work to maintain and keep together. Keep dropping these amazing gems of wisdom.

Jess, The Creator's avatar

thank you so much, Eladio!!!

like you said all relationships take a lot of working and cultivating and nurturing.

stay tuned for more gems every sunday morning!! thanks fam!!

The Honest Bloke's avatar

Jess this is a great article perhaps it’s taught me a few pointers about how an article should look presentation wise.

It’s easy to read, great pictures, separated into manageable chunks, personally I just write whatever comes into my head, but perhaps as my skill grow I could rewrite my previous articles and lay them out in a similar manner to this

Jess, The Creator's avatar

thank you so much, Bloke!

I’m glad you liked it. I use the same format every sunday article to honest. its way easier.

I;m glad you enjoy the pics! I obviously organize the pics and manageable chunks on purpose like that. thats my art once im done writing.

every time I create a new article, I duplicate the previous article as a draft to drafts and go edit that for the new article if that makes sense.

if you need help DM me anytime.

The Honest Bloke's avatar

Great pointer, I usually just write daily and submit whatever I’ve wrote, I think I’ll continue to do that, but I’ll also write more detailed articles which will be submitted weekly and edit and presented neatly with pictures as you did.

You earnt a new sub today, I’ve followed your work for about a week but subscribed a short while ago

Ps my name isn’t bloke haha it’s a slang term for a man here in the UK. But I chose to remain anonymous on the platform.

The Honest Bloke's avatar

My name is Lewis, I appreciate you subscribing back to me.

I’ll be sure to drop you a message if I am struggling with an article, I appreciate the advice and you offering to help out

Jess, The Creator's avatar

Hey Lewis! Here is a link to my other publication that could probably help you a lot!

https://unstucktopublished.substack.com/p/no-one-reads-your-substack-at-first?r=2glptb&utm_medium=ios

DM me anytime

The Honest Bloke's avatar

Thanks for sharing this!

I’m going to look into this

Jess, The Creator's avatar

Anytime!! Check it out. I’ve gotten a lot of great feedback. I post new articles on it every Monday and Thursday

Jess, The Creator's avatar

Oh ok! I’m Jessica what’s your name? I just subscribed and recommended your page. I also have another Substack publication dedicated to helping other writers and creators publish on Substack called Unstuck to Publish. np fellow is about health and wellness and functional medicine.

If you need help formatting your articles let me know! I’ve read books on this shit haha

Dido Torchi's avatar

Needed this article, Jess, thanks for writing it up! Will definitely see relationships are my weak point, and it's specifically because of what you mentioned. As a former people pleaser, it is hard to sit with the discomfort of other people's anger/sadness/hurt, so I try to avoid it. But as you said, keeping a distance forever isn't a solution. Will try to incorporate this more, with slow intention.

Jess, The Creator's avatar

You’re welcome, Dido! Writing the article actually helped me alot too. Most of my work I usually am writing to myself wherever I’m at in life. So I’m glad it was helpful! Stay strong, maintain distance and set clear boundaries.

Double ID's avatar

The rupture is not what people remember. It’s the moment they realize the other person didn’t come back.

Not physically but emotionally.

Something closes there. And from that point on, even connection starts to feel like effort.

- Double🆔️

Jess, The Creator's avatar

Yep and that’s when tensions rise and things get left unsaid and contempt builds up. Unfortunately

Robyn Levin's avatar

Great insights Jess! This could help so many people stay together rather than run! I like your playlist too. Thx for sharing. 👏

Jess, The Creator's avatar

Thank you so much, Robyn!

I’m pumped you love the playlists! I create them all the time!!

mary beth kaplan🪶's avatar

Great post, Jess! Connection is the other, very needed Vitamin C!

Jess, The Creator's avatar

Great point, Mary Beth! I like that. The vitamin Cs connection and the regular vitamin C!

CHRISTINA PICANZA's avatar

"If the connection is real, it should feel natural." That is something I always go back to in my own relationship and I feel that way. But I guess you are saying it takes work no matter what.

Jess, The Creator's avatar

Oh yes! All relationships, especially marriages take work! And nurturing that special bond all the time.