One grounded internal skill you can practice this week.
You finish something difficult.
Maybe you handled a challenging conversation, completed a project, or figured out something you weren’t sure you could do.
Someone tells you that you did well and your first instinct is to explain why it doesn’t count.
I had help.
It wasn’t that difficult.
I just got lucky.
On Sunday, we talked about what happens when you keep moving the standard for being good enough.
This week, we’re practicing something different.
Learning how to give ourselves credit without giving ourselves more credit than the evidence supports.
You don’t have to convince yourself you’re amazing.
You just have to give yourself a fair assessment.
Why This Skill Matters
When you’re struggling with self-doubt, it’s easy to treat your mistakes as meaningful and your successes as exceptions.
You remember what went wrong and you question what went right.
And even when you’ve accomplished something, you may not allow it to change how you see yourself; however, confidence doesn’t require you to pretend you’re good at everything.
→ It can grow when you develop a more accurate understanding of what you know, what you’ve learned, and what you’re capable of doing.
If your mistakes count as evidence, your accomplishments do too.
What This Skill Is
This week, we’re practicing a simple three-question exercise:
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