There is another layer here that matters. You cannot surrender to something you have not first been willing to see. Meeting yourself where you are requires an honest inventory. The harder part is resisting the urge to put yourself on trial for what you find. The coordinates are not a judgment. They are simply the place from which the next step becomes possible. Excellent piece.
Jess, this is such an important topic that I'm glad you tackled.
In general, we are harder on ourselves than anyone else is on us. A fundamental philosophy underlying all coaching is to meet the person where they are and if you're serving as your own coach, the same applies.
Always start with a judgement-free zone and recognize and build on your successes, no matter how small, more than where you fall short.
I love this so much Jess, and it's crazy I was just thinking about this concept earlier today (I swear we are on some telepathic shit or something 😂). It's easy to look at a failure in the moment as evidence that you're behind or you shouldn't keep going, but when you look at the bigger picture, I always see that I'm doing a lot better than I give myself credit for. We tend to focus too much on what we haven't done vs. what we have done, so it's a good habit to give yourself more grace as life happens.
Yeah it’s important that we can take a step back and see the bigger picture when gaining clarity or a perspective on something. And that’s wild haha we are definitely on the same wave length that’s for sure!!!
💙 A question for you:
Where in your life are you asking yourself to be somewhere other than where you actually are?
Maybe you think you should be further along. More certain. Less tired. Already over it.
What changes if, just for today, you start with:
This is where I am. What do I need from here?
There is another layer here that matters. You cannot surrender to something you have not first been willing to see. Meeting yourself where you are requires an honest inventory. The harder part is resisting the urge to put yourself on trial for what you find. The coordinates are not a judgment. They are simply the place from which the next step becomes possible. Excellent piece.
Awesome advice Jess!
Thanks, Chris!!!
Meeting yourself where you are can be hard. Always try and tell myself I’m right where I need to be. Not ahead or behind
Thanks great advice that you tell yourself, Craig! Thank you for sharing that!
Thanks! Hope someone can find it useful.
Make Plans For The Person Who Actually Exists 👈🌱📍🗺️
“This is exactly why I’m always saying that the ‘physics must match reality’” 🎓 Professor C
Thank you, Dash! And I love the quote by Professor C!!!
Jess, this is such an important topic that I'm glad you tackled.
In general, we are harder on ourselves than anyone else is on us. A fundamental philosophy underlying all coaching is to meet the person where they are and if you're serving as your own coach, the same applies.
Always start with a judgement-free zone and recognize and build on your successes, no matter how small, more than where you fall short.
Thank you so much for reading and that nugget of advice at the end, Melanie! I appreciate you!
My pleasure Jess. Glad you liked it. Hope it helps others who see it.
Seeing versus judging - thank you
You’re very welcome! Thank you for reading!!
I love this so much Jess, and it's crazy I was just thinking about this concept earlier today (I swear we are on some telepathic shit or something 😂). It's easy to look at a failure in the moment as evidence that you're behind or you shouldn't keep going, but when you look at the bigger picture, I always see that I'm doing a lot better than I give myself credit for. We tend to focus too much on what we haven't done vs. what we have done, so it's a good habit to give yourself more grace as life happens.
Yeah it’s important that we can take a step back and see the bigger picture when gaining clarity or a perspective on something. And that’s wild haha we are definitely on the same wave length that’s for sure!!!
Befriending Ourselves
Loving-Kindness-maitri-toward ourselves doesn't mean getting rid of
anything. Maitri means that we can still be crazy after all these years.
We can still be angry after all these years. We can still be timid or
jealous or full of feelings of unworthiness. The point is not to try to
change ourselves. Meditation practice isn't about trying to throw ourselves
away and become something better. Its about befriending who we are
already. The ground of practice is you or me or whoever we are right now,
just as we are. That's the ground, that's what we study, that's what we
come to know with tremendous curiosity and interest.
~ Pema Chodron, From the book, "The Wisdom of No Escape,"
;-)
Thank you!!!
https://soulbiographies.com/
The possibility is that a deeper way of seeing
becomes a deeper way of living, and from that, a
more human world can emerge.
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Every society is shaped by the way it sees.
Unless that seeing fundamentally changes, we
simply reproduce the same outcomes.
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The Soul of Humanity exists to deepen the way we
see:
to recognize ourselves in one another and recover
a deeper human intelligence from which we can see,
know, speak, create and act.
Great piece, Jess. Oftentimes, we tend not to realize how far we have actually come.
Thank you, Eladio! We must give ourselves more credit!