This resonates. I think a lot of us replay conversations in our heads instead of just going back and asking, Can we try again? Such a good reminder that repair is a skill.
Great article, Jess! This is such an important skill to have. To be able to get rid of the assumption of why the breakdown happened in the first place is vital. Otherwise, our imagination can run wild.
I have often experienced people separating because of any kind of disagreement about something. Regardless of whether a fight or disagreement broke out, the separation was inevitable, but with it the separation of people. From what I know and can tell, often and almost always pride and spite are so high that no one wants to take the first step... because in people's minds there is a premise that taking the first step automatically means going beyond own opinion and attitude, admitting guilt, and that is where everything gets complicated if the other side interprets it that way, and not as a step towards preserving the relationship in the face of a simple disagreement.
Fantastic insight into the cause of relationship breakdowns. What we often find in life is that the challenges that appear to separate useful actually connect us. We are all a work in progress.
I need the "What do I know step first." Those stupid imaginary conversations! 😂
Me too! Those stories we tell ourselves can definitely get to us! This article was helpful for me as well!
Phenomenal, and really useful skill! Especially in the today's age of distance.
Thank you, Mick! I found it useful it’s this day and age for sure!! It was helpful to write this!
Great skill Jess!
thank you so much, Chris! appreciate you!!
Focusing on understanding over ego
Very true, I like that!
This resonates. I think a lot of us replay conversations in our heads instead of just going back and asking, Can we try again? Such a good reminder that repair is a skill.
Great article, Jess! This is such an important skill to have. To be able to get rid of the assumption of why the breakdown happened in the first place is vital. Otherwise, our imagination can run wild.
I have often experienced people separating because of any kind of disagreement about something. Regardless of whether a fight or disagreement broke out, the separation was inevitable, but with it the separation of people. From what I know and can tell, often and almost always pride and spite are so high that no one wants to take the first step... because in people's minds there is a premise that taking the first step automatically means going beyond own opinion and attitude, admitting guilt, and that is where everything gets complicated if the other side interprets it that way, and not as a step towards preserving the relationship in the face of a simple disagreement.
Fantastic insight into the cause of relationship breakdowns. What we often find in life is that the challenges that appear to separate useful actually connect us. We are all a work in progress.